This blog post has been weighing on me for some time now, and I hope it’s helpful to someone out there who may struggle with the same insecurities that many mothers, including myself, struggle with.
Last weekend our Henley girl turned one and we celebrated with a cake smash (you can see her in all of her adorable one year old glory HERE!) aaaaand I really wanted a few quick pictures of she and I together. My husband is a brave soul for taking that second part on and is the true MVP for putting up with my micro-managing lectures on lighting and flattering angles. (Love you Paul!) I wasn’t planning to post any of them. They weren’t suppose to be for anyone but me. My youngest just turned one and I am still holding onto the majority of my baby weight from my SIX year old. Yes, my six year old. I love my kids. I love pictures. I don’t always love to parade myself around IN pictures with my kids. But while uploading the images Paul took, I was overwhelmed with gratitude. Gratitude for this body that has given me three beautiful children. Proud that for the past thirteen years, it has allowed me to be a mother. The way Henley fits on my hip, the way she holds my fingers, her pouty little cheeks, the way she nuzzles into me like I’m her safe place – these are all things I want to remember forever. No double chin or soft postpartum belly is worth missing out on that.
So often I get inquiries from mothers wanting to book a family session, or I’ll have a friend tell me they desperately want updated family pictures….but not right now, because they need to “lose a little weight first”. As a mom, I completely get it and I am with you. But as a photographer, it breaks my heart. Why? Because the majority of those family sessions get put off…and put off and put off. They get put off until the years have passed, the time has passed, and those memories are gone. Mamas, your children are only little for a short while. I know the days feel long, but the years are painfully short. The details slowly fade. Time is a thief. But you, my friend, YOU are beautiful. Your children think you are perfect. Your role in motherhood is worth it. Book the session. (Or pull an Amanda and throw the camera at your husband) Get in the pictures. Document memories WITH your babies. You’ll never regret it. I promise.